Comments on Confessions of a Dilettante: Mother Guilt

Thanks everyone for the funny/ thoughtful/ kind wo...

2009-06-15T07:37:20.932-11:00

Thanks everyone for the funny/ thoughtful/ kind words. I always have intentions of responding personally to each comment...and then my life seems to so rudely interrupt my plans.
Please know that I do read and am gratedul for each one!

the same. and yup still feel the guilt. i guess wh...

2009-06-15T07:03:20.110-11:00

the same. and yup still feel the guilt. i guess what comforts me is trusting God for His Word. I bring it up to him...and see the result to be true. spare the rod. spoil the child. so today is Grady's second day in his "big boy" toddler bed. i KNOW he's fine sleeping in it after three times...b/c i'm his mother, but for guilt and part nurturing. i stay in his bed with him until he falls asleep or is too tired to fight. finally, i had had it. i stayed for three rounds of mobile music...which he turned back on. i "warned" him that when it was over i'd go bye byes and see him when he woke ...and we'd watch teet...(Grady language for sesame street) together. he proceeded to get out of the bed and screem to the top of his lungs off the bed banging on the door. might sound funny, but he wasn't being a good listener...so i did it...and then he was a good listener. totallly fine and currently a sleeping beauty...and that's how i know that he knows exactly what he's doing. do i feel guilty? you better believe it. i continue to trust. shrug...i switched computers jill and you were saved on my favs on the other one. i was looking up sent mail and ran into your blog site that i sent to someone. happy i did. i miss you..and your supportive stories. i trust you are doing well with baby number two? i'm due july 21st with a girl. :)

If she had been my kid, I would have swatted her t...

2009-06-13T10:13:53.318-11:00

If she had been my kid, I would have swatted her too.

I'm sure that she is bright enough to understand the consequences ... after you had explained and admonished her ... then she tested you, just to see if you really meant it.

Kids will do those kind of things ... just to verify the boundaries.

Now she knows she can get away with it 3 times before you swat her behind. ?? Or was it, "the next time this happens ..." ?

I agree with Lauren...you told her what her conseq...

2009-06-11T16:41:11.867-11:00

I agree with Lauren...you told her what her consequence would be if she peed in her underwear again and she did, so you had to stick with it. Now, I don't know anything about potty training except for what I have seen on Jon and Kate Plus 8 (my new obsession, besides Dave - Matthews, that is - thanks to US Weekly cover stories). Anyway, she had the kids sit on the training toilet until they went...even if that meant sitting on for 30+ minutes. (Hey, if she does that, at least that's 30 minutes of uninterrupted alone time!)

And, don't feel bad. I got spanked and even had my mouth washed out with soap and I ADORE my parents. (I can't handle the smell of Zest soap, but...) She still loves you and always will. And, eventually, she will only pee her pants when she's pregnant. :)

Give yourself a break. You're ALL under a fair bit...

2009-06-11T11:37:08.865-11:00

Give yourself a break. You're ALL under a fair bit of stress these days. And you're not a bad mom, just a human one.

I'm not a mother so I can't give you any parenting...

2009-06-11T09:03:14.254-11:00

I'm not a mother so I can't give you any parenting advice whatsoever, I just wanted to let you know that the line "I spanked my daughter today for peeing on the floor" almost caused ME to pee on the floor.

I do not judge, and I do not think it is the end of the world. You did not do it out of anger or a lost temper; you told her if she did ____ she'd get ____ and you followed through with it. While some people may say "any spanking is WRONG", I think it's better that you held up your end of the agreement and let her know you were serious.

You are a fabulous, fun, hip, and beautiful Mommy. No one expects you to be 100% perfection, even if you're damn close.